We
live in a society that promotes the narrative that success is guaranteed from
one's hard work. We pride ourselves on our hard work and our work ethic. It
will not be out of place to draw up the conclusion that success is a
demonstration of your virtue, as it points to the fact that you are entitled to
success because you have worked hard.
I
have seen many deserving people and frequently classmates from my secondary
school study years to my tertiary study get out of the blue poor results at tests
and examinations.
Sadly,
many people that keep struggling daily to succeed from hard work, find
themselves sucked into a cruel cycle from which they can never seem to come out
from. This cycle makes you think you have not done enough, hence, you have to
work hard the more, it goes on and same poor result is the output. How about
you pause for a moment and evaluate what you are doing to know if it is the
right thing or better put, if it the right kind of hard work.
The
big question is, what did you fail to do? How did the outcome turn oddly out of sync
with the effort you have put in? Quite
often, if the person is grossly worried, room for further questions can be made,
such as, have I committed some slip in my preparation process? Then your worst
fear, maybe you are not just good, that even your best falls far short of the
mark?
Apparently,
the endpoint is the feeling of disappointment that birth both shame and
exasperation. Then, there is a last option to place the blame on. In a highly
religious space like Nigeria, the person begins to entertain thoughts and
feelings of being robbed of his/her destiny, occasioned by some dark powers
that be, which I do not take away from the equation. Your thoughts reverberates
“las las, my village people don get me”
By
this time, the person will think he/she will provoke sympathy of people but all
you get is a cold scorn and judgment.
Hard
work will NOT PAY if the right
things are not done, it will only amount to suffering. It will just be a
torturous journey and efforts that will not yield anything other than pain and
disappointment.
If
hard work indeed will bring success, we may consider some things we have
ignored for long and I see them as requisites to rewire our mindset, which will
positively change our approach towards achieving success.
§ Hard work isn't physical–it's
mental- We all know plenty of people who worked hard all
their life and ended up broke, don't we? I have nothing against hard work.
However, we have to agree that hard work fundamentally involves mental process
of making smart decisions. The key here is to ask questions with an open mind
and without any preconceptions, such as where am I? Where are my going from
here? how do I get there?. Of course without entertaining preconceptions,
because, preconceptions lead to fear and clouded thinking. This form of
open-minded thinking allows for creative problem solving and opportunities. This
will help you make smart and strategic decisions in order to hit your mark and
surpass it. Smart thinking combined with smart work will always pay off in the
long run.
§ Be intentional in all you do-
Is your life run on autopilot or you are in charge? Being intentional about all
you do means you knowing why you do what you do and why you don’t do what you
don’t do. It is actually not about making choices but evaluating the choices
you have made and how they add up towards achieving your goals
§ Focus on things you can control-
It is an extreme extension of perfectionism to think you have “everything under
control” you will constantly overextend yourself without much to show for it.
Of course, you expend too much energy on issues that fall outside of your
circles of influence and control, limiting the energy you have left to use on
issues that you can truly control. Be realistic about what you can control. Pick
fights you can win and win big, that way, you will be living in alignment with
and doing (working hard) on what matters most? That will make your hard work
pay.
§ Success is all about relationships
NOT Hard work - Sometimes your actions (hard work) fail
to bring the results you want. You will need to have anchoring relationships.
It is essential, you require this web of support of relevant people with
different skills, and ability. They can come from your family, friends,
colleagues at work or peers. The right people in your life will benefit you
throughout each of your life’s endeavors.
I
believe that merely working hard does not cut it, but adding the externals I
have mentioned in this write-up will help you set a course for your life rather
than just wandering aimlessly through life.

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